Hammock - Cold Front

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How to be a better, bland person

Just a few steps on how to become a better,bland person, and how not to be blind to your own mistakes:

First of all, your ego and your pride are your enemies. If you think that's not the case, you probably wont agree with all said here.

• Forget about you being a good person. You must believe that you are bad person. This way you should begin to see what you're doing wrong, where you could be better, how could you be a better man. Destroy your ego. Some will say the opposite, that you need to love yourself to love others, but I don't believe it. Think about you being a bad person, but don't go into despair.
• Try, at least try, when someone says something bad about you, to accept it, and instead of replying with some ugly words or something to deny it, say "Yes, I am."(you can say it to yourself, not so that others will hear). Train yourself to accept negative opinions about yourself, even if you think that for the most part it's not your fault. You can see everyday people that do something wrong, and when someone tries to tell them about it, they will argue, and will be blind to any words, blinded by their ego. That's where seeing yourself as a bad person helps, it'll will be easier to see  your mistakes, and not just blame others. Accepting that you did a wrong thing, and it's your fault, can be more painful than you could think, denial after all is a brain mechanism to defend yourself.
• When you want to blame someone, think about your part in it. Sometime, when you'll have the urge to blame someone, there will be actually a smart part of your fault in it. Someone did something wrong ? Yes he screwed up, but you also had a small part in it. When you'll have the urge to blame everything on him. Your part was to small so the other person is to blame for everything ! Your brain tries to hide your part, and you'll feel much better knowing what there is someone else who screwed up, not you. In some worse cases, people will blame someone else, even if for the most part it was their fault. They'll try to blame others for their own failure, and they will be sure that it's not their fault.
• When someone does something bad to you, try to not reply with the same thing, and don't hold a grudge. If he needs help, help him. Your ego will hurt, you'll feel pain. You'll feel like being humiliated in front of others because you don't respond him. If later you'll keep being nice to him, and help if he needs it, in the beginning they may be staring, thinking what's wrong with you. And after that, most of the time, they will also become more good toward you, and if it's the case, even friends. Now, if you hold a grudge, and refuse to help because "this asshole last year didn't want to help me", they'll think "what an asshole", and things will get worse each time someone will refuse the other, because no one will break this hate cycle. Do it right, and you'll have very few, if any enemies.
• A very helpful thing, think all the people that surround you, as your brothers and sisters. That way it will be easier for you to help them in need, being it a beggar, a woman that doesn't have a seat, or somebody else. When we where small, my brother bought his favorite cookies; on our way home, we found a beggar, my brother went to him and gave him a part of  his cookies, the beggar was very grateful, cause people only throw him money, but no kid to share his cookies ) Maybe in our days, when food is not such a big problem, cookies are nothing, but the general idea is to think of everyone as your brothers, go to a beggar, give him something saying "here you go brother" when others avoid him.
• And the last one: Don't think to much. Some people will argue a lot of what needs to be done, if it's a good thing or not. My belief is that if your result will make someone happy, do it. If it will make someone unhappy that is the wrong thing to do. I've seen many people, arguing, speaking much about doing something or not, or even worse, some people said that for example sending someone to prison or beating him is actually a good thing, cause this will teach him a lesson for the future, and this way you help him (wtf? right?).

So this is what I could tell about being a better person. Don't believe that I'm a good person :D I'm just trying to be better, and sometimes I'm astonished at how people can't see their own obvious mistakes... Answer: Ego and pride...

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